on the eve of a new year i had one of "those" days // reality check.

December 31, 2013

I already signed off for the year in this space. Then today happened and I had to pop in again for a little reality check. Today, amidst my patient other half repainting our entire open plan living area {of exposed external brick no less} my two children decided to pull out every single irritating noise they could create. They were miserable. One playing the ever so exhausting role of velcro baby. The other spent every spare minute seeing if hands on hips and sharp tongues really do win you every single thing you demand {for the record, they don't} and how many times she could say "mummy, mummy, mummy."

To top it all off, our bank account is depressing, our home a bombsite, my head muddled with a hundred ideas but no time to start/ complete even one of them.

Our children made me struggle to like them today. I am tired. Left wondering how it is possible for every older person to tell us that one day we will look back on these days as the most amazing {seriously?! Is it all down hill from here?}

I have had a few people point out lately that blogs seem to "hide" reality. To show the pretty stuff and hide the messy. Honestly? My life has loads of messy, so do the lives of many of those around me. This space is not for the messy, it is for the good.

That's the thing. Life is so messy. Those people who look back on this stage as the best, they only remember the good. I want the same. I don't want to look back and see that a lot of the time my little people drove me crazy, the floors needed sweeping, my dinner was from a package... I want to remember the other bits. The parts where the crazy in me laughed until my tummy was sore, there was a space in the room clear of clutter for us to make a new mess in, and dinner came from our home grown vegetables and was made from scratch in a tidy kitchen. Those things make me happy, not all the messy bits. I want to see the magic, to breathe and live it. This space lets me do just that.

So, in 2014, I will continue to capture those moments that make me feel happy. To keep my glass half full. I hope that visitors are inspired too, but also remember that there is no such thing as perfect. Just messy, happy, and about a million other things in between.

Happy New Year to my messy friends, both real and online. Thank-you for being you. Covered up or unravelled.

♡ ashley

p.s. mid writing this I had to rush to the bath to help with a code brown. Indeed, the icing on 2013s cake? A baby bath poo! See you next year.


  1. Happy new year from one messy friend to another! Code brown cracked me up, have not yet had to deal with a bath poo - probably just jinxed myself..... I hope 2014 brings you lots of smiles and your glass stays half full. I have really enjoyed reading your blog this year. Shell xx

    1. i have loved 'meeting' you on here shell! hope it wasn't a jinx. with piper we made it to two and though we were in the clear. then BAM she did it everyday for a week. i am hoping poppy has got it 'out of her system {oh lordy so wrong}' happy new year lovely! xx

  2. Don't you just love those days. Some days just don't get better until they're over do they.
    Hope that tomorrow is a better day for you all.
    And I agree with your philosophy on your blog. It's nice to have a positive space, and project positivity. But it doesn't mean that there isn't messiness in your life!
    Happy new year to you and your family x

    1. hmm, after waking to the sounds of a desperate and frustrated three year old stuck in an upside down and inside out t-shirt am not liking my odds for a massively improved day! happy new year out there in that beautiful red sand. xx

  3. We all have those days. We all wonder which part of this parenting gig, exactly, is supposed to be fun? And code brown! Love it. We've never had a code brown with kid #1 but have had several with #2. My first memory is a code brown in the bath. A positive space is inspiring, but we all need the reality check too. Cheers.

  4. any mom has those days. we just have to try to remember the good. it all goes by way too fast. and poo baths are the WORST!! Lily was doing that all the time for a while. so i started giving her showers and no more baths. happy new year!

  5. I love this post, and I salute your glass half full approach. My approach to my blog is more warts and all, but I'm Ok looking back and seeing all that has happened. Everyone blogs for a different reason I guess.



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