I have been busily soaking in some articles found on the parenting site kindred.
I am not a 'crunchy' or 'attachment' or a 'green' parent. I am the best parent I can be. I wear Piper in an ergo carrier, am still breastfeeding, try to avoid preservatives and eat loads of organic. To be honest, most of these things I do because it is easier for me.
I also let her watch Sesame Street sometimes, and have shared ice cream cones with her.
I don't feel we need to put ourselves into a specific category as parents, and really shouldn't as that type of pressure is just what a mama, or dada doesn't need.
We need good tips and advice to make us happy and, better yet, to make resilient and empathetic children who know they are loved no matter what crowd they choose to join.
One article I did come across on this site is here, Five reasons to stop saying, 'good job'. Which has inspired me to take a new challenge on board to change the way I deal with my child, the children I teach and most of the other little and big children I speak to. After I read this I caught myself saying, 'good clapping', 'good eating' and 'good walking' about a hundred times that same day.
I have the 'good' verbal tic something fierce.
I know that we need to encourage our children and each other, but perhaps it is time to get creative.
The more we overuse this type of praise the more our children learn to rely on our judgements. If we say 'good sharing' every time out child shares, they stop sharing for the value it holds and start doing so to please us.
We need to provide unconditional support to our little ones. To tell them 'good job' is to show that there is a chance it could have been 'bad job' and that we are always judging them.
Our expressions need to be genuine, and the good tic needs to be left behind.
Pop over to the above link to have a deeper look.
Perhaps a good challenge for us all...
This week's nuggets.
We have been spending more than our fair share of time hiding from storms inside. With spring about to sprung, we wait in anticipation for sunny days to dry our clothes and let us play in the dirt.
Piper set up her own game of peek-a-boo.
And managed to bite the head off a ladybug skittle...
This mama has been busy clickety-clacking the knitting needles, a head start for next winter.
AHhhhmmmm, as I said waiting to dry our clothing outside, as guest bedroom is not a happy place right now.
When I do sneak outside, I notice that everything is starting to sprout and bloom. Spring is a wonderful thing.
Off for a dinner date with my love. My other love will be in bed, with a neighbour watching over her for the first time. i will miss my
more nuggets here.